faith, Judaism

Essay: Why I want to become Jewish

Note: As part of my conversion process, my rabbi requires that I write my religious autobiography, which is made up of a series of essays. I’m posting these essays here, as well, to share my journey. I’m nearing the end of this process and will soon meet the beit din (rabbinical court) who will decide my Jewish “fate.” If my request for conversion is approved, I’ll then enter the mikveh and, when I emerge, I do so as a Jew.

Here is my first essay in the series, which is all about what compelled me to make this decision.

When starting out on my faith journey in my early twenties, I carried with me the God of my youth. This God was one that, if my prayers were sincere enough, my heart true enough, and my deeds good enough, would grant whatever it was that I wanted. If my prayers weren’t answered, it was because I had sinned or had fallen short of God’s plan for me. God was like a magical ATM in the sky, dispensing money, happiness, and an occasional new car to those that were worthy and devout.

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Rest in peace, Mother Angelica, and thank you

“Faith is one foot on the ground, one foot in the air, and a queasy feeling in the stomach.” – Mother Mary Angelica

Mother_AngelicaThe quote above is one that has stuck with me for almost a decade. Mother Angelica, a cloistered Franciscan nun who became the founder of EWTN, the global Roman Catholic television network, died today at age 92.  It is fitting that a woman as devout and holy as she would pass on the day of the resurrection of her Lord.

I left the Catholic Church years ago, and anyone who reads my blog knows that I’m not in a good place with Christianity and the faith and beliefs I’ve held my entire life, especially since I’m considering converting to Judaism, but saying goodbye to this extraordinary woman hurts. 

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Christian creeps

A few years ago, I was a really crappy friend to someone I’ll call Summer.  She and I met back when we were taking college classes at Indiana Tech and we became fast friends.  Even after I moved away, we maintained a friendship.  This wasn’t a surface-level friendship, either.  We confided in each other about our struggles as wives and working women and we were always telling one another how thankful we were to have the other in our lives.

And then it all changed.
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That bumpy spiritual road

Let me preface the following paragraphs by saying this – I’m not just writing this to share my thoughts out into the faceless, endless black hole of the internet.  I would love comments/thoughts on this topic.  I’m inquiring because I’m truly, honestly curious and I want to have a real discussion (not a debate or argument) on this topic.

I’ve made no secret of my spiritual challenges on this blog.  I’ve moved around and I’ve left churches and I’ve explored others, and at the end of the day, I end up right where I was when I started – frustrated and confused.  Over the past few months, I’ve been too worked up and busy with the move and my role at work to really focus on thing of the spiritual nature, but it’s the holiday season now and things are slowing down.  I can breathe again, and I can think about things besides bus tables and traffic patterns and all those other things that dictate my life out here now.  Naturally, as we finally get “settled” here, we want to find a home church.  It’s important to us, not only for worship but for the community it fosters and that we so desperately need in a region where we have no family and only a few friends.

First, some facts I can deduce from my Christian journey so far:

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faith, Family, Holidays

An unexpectedly blessed Christmas

I approached the Christmas season with a healthy amount of dread, as I have previously wrote about in this post.  I planned on avoiding all family gatherings and had a great excuse because of the hours I was working the fact that I would need any time off to rest.  But, as it often happens, things change.   Continue reading “An unexpectedly blessed Christmas”


Round peg, square hole

Since starting my night shift job almost seven months ago, Hubby and I have found it nearly impossible to go to church on Sunday morning.  We’ve made a few valiant attempts to set the alarm for 9am so that we can get cleaned up, eat breakfast, and make it for the last service at 11am, but inevitably  we would sleep through the alarm.  When you rarely turn in before 4am and walked the equivalent of a few miles over the course of your work night, getting up just five hours later is a difficult feat!  A few times, we’ve gone to our church’s Sunday night multicultural service, but it simply isn’t the same.  We love the hymns and the swelling choir – things not offered during an evening service.  Last night, however, we planned ahead.  We were in bed by 1am, and although I overslept until 9:30 and we ran around, clothes and shower towels everywhere, we made it into the church parking lot with 9 minutes to spare!

And boy, oh boy, am I glad we did.  I’ve missed our church.  I’ve discussed my faith journey in a previous post and since I made that entry three months ago, my heart has changed a bit (which I will get into in a minute.)  Our church is a very unique one in the world of the United Methodist Church.  It’s special.  It’s beyond unique.  And I’m not just saying that because I love the place so much.  Stepping inside our sanctuary is always awe-inspiring.  Every time.

photo (3)And our pastor.  Lord Almighty, our pastor is truly gifted.  Our hearts broke when our long-time pastor retired nearly two years ago now, but we were blessed with the amazingly talented Rev. Rob from North Carolina. Rarely do his sermons leave a dry eye and today was no different.  I felt moved and recharged at the end of his sermon, where he preached about how special we are to God and how much we mean to Him.  As we filed out of the massive sanctuary and headed back to our car, Hubby said, “That was good.  That was really good.”  And it was.

On our drive home, we both lamented about how exhausted we were and promised to one another that we needed to make time for worship each Sunday.  I retold an incident at work where one of my associates was talking about going to church and I asked her how she managed to be at church on a Sunday morning when she worked night shift.  Her response?  “Honey, that’s just the devil stoppin’ you!  You gotta get up, tell the devil to stuff it, and go!  You can sleep later!”  I think she had a point.

Now, regarding my “change of heart.”  I went to Mass a few weeks ago.  First time in over three years.  I told myself that I’d just go once but find that I’ll probably go more than just that one time.  After all, the local Catholic parish is within walking distance from here.  You see, I’m at a weird point in my Walk – I’m happiest in the UMC but part of my heart still aches for the Roman Catholic Church.  I wasn’t raised Catholic, but I spent 18 months in RCIA, was baptized into the church in 2007, and walked away in 2010 due to my frustrations with the the Church’s obsessive focus on anti-abortion at the expense of everything else in spiritual life.  In January, something happened to my family that tested both my faith and my sanity.  In hindsight, I overreacted to a bad situation, but try telling that to someone with Generalized Anxiety Disorder when they’re in panic mode.  (Hint: they won’t hear you.)  Ever since then, I’ve prayed the Chaplet of Divine Mercy pretty regularly.  And I started listening to old episodes of Mother Angelica Live again.  (How I love that nun!) My iPhone is full of religious apps, most of them relating to saints, Mary, and the liturgical year.

Where is this all coming from?  I ask myself this daily yet I don’t have an answer.  I’m not ready to commit fully back to the RCC.  I’m not willing to give up the beautiful spiritual life I’ve found (again) through the UMC.  I want to go to Mass on Saturday night and Worship on Sunday morning.  And something occurred to me recently because I realized that I can do both. See, I’ve spent the majority of my life believing that things were either black or white, right or wrong, up or down.  Life, though, has thrown all kinds of lessons at me through an African American husband, a lesbian best friend, bigoted relatives, and a family torn apart by addiction.  I am happy to finally say that I don’t have to be ONE type of Christian.  It’s nobody’s business but my own if I choose to worship in both the United Methodist and Roman Catholic churches. If I feel spiritually complete, that’s good enough for me. I can’t fit myself into this tiny little square Methodist hole, because then I’d be denying those parts of myself that want to pray the rosary and read about Marian apparitions.  And I can’t shove myself into that little round Catholic peg, because then I’d lose the amazing inspiration and outreach that I find as a Methodist.  I’m a round peg AND a square hole.  And you know what?  They fit together just fine.